Are you pleasuring yourself enough?

Are you getting your daily dose of pleasure?

I don’t know about you, but September was so fffffff – ing busy that I barely had time to breathe. Clients galore, travels to the UK for my Glastonbury retreat with Demi, and my first book signing in London.

So far, October hasn’t been any different. Just moved into my new home after living in my mom’s place for over a year. Many of you know she passed on February 26th this year and prior to that she had been ill with Stage 4 pancreatic cancer. So this was a BIG move for me.

I had to say goodbye to Mama Rosa and move out of her home for a second time. The first time was when I was 18 and had graduated from high school and was moving to California to attend Cal State Northridge.

Now I’m living in my dream home in Ojai with 2 dogs, 2 horses, 4 alpaca and 1 cat! I’m nesting and enjoying the quiet of living in the country … this is about as country as this city girl from Chicago has ever been!

And, I have even more clients this month and more of my own projects happening … BOOK #2 nearly ready!

But even in the midst of a fuckton of change, chaos, busyness, grief, fear and stress I find a way to make time for pleasure.

Here’s how can you keep giving yourself energizing, SACRED pleasure, no matter what.

#1: Make Pleasure a PRIORITY, not a second thought.

Some total jackass somewhere once told the world that we have to work hard then play. I think it was a Quaker or some such fundamentalist person who started this notion…they should be spanked. (I imagine that this would have given his uptight, repressed self a great deal of pleasure and therefore could have changed the face of history.)

Truly, you will never have time or energy for pleasure if you work this way.

We all know we promise ourselves that massage or special time off if we just get that one last project done for the day is never kept. I know there are a few exceptions to this. I might know 1 person.

If I wait until after hours, days and weeks of working my arse off I will not take enough time for myself. I put myself into an endless loop of work, work, work.

And you know what? At the end of the day I have less money in the bank. Not because I didn’t make money, but because I had to spend it ALL on the doctor, medication, eating out wayyyyy too much, buying shit I didn’t really need on Amazon or Woot. Non-pleasuring behaviors are actually detrimental to your health AND your bank account.

Someone once told me, “The more fun you have, the more money you make.” I would change that to, “The more fun you have, the more money you KEEP.”

Check out my blog post, HERE, to get some suggestions on how to add more pleasure to your busy work days.

#2: Pleasure yourself first.

I get it. We have a lot of people to please (even when we aren’t “people pleasing”) and it makes us feel good to see them happy. Then your soul asks, “What have you done for me lately?”

I know this is a reference to a 80’s hit by Janet Jackson, but it touches upon a truth. Have you done anything for YOU lately?

Your soul resides in your heart. When you stop listening to your heart, you are not truly living the life you’re meant to live.

This is why pleasure is sacred.

Yes, you do have to sacrifice to bring more pleasure into your life … and what will you decide to sacrifice? Your sanity? Your health?


You have that demanding client wait one day for that phone call that “just can’t wait.”

You ask your child to make their bed or help wash the dishes.

You ask your significant other to make or bring home dinner so you can hit that Zumba or Hot Yoga class your body is craving.

Yes, there may be a groan or two. But, I can guarantee that no lives or business will be lost.

(sacrifice = to make something holy)

Make yourself holy by giving yourself time for pleasure.

#3: Make a ritual.

I have been ritualizing more in the past two months than I have in years. I completely forgot not only how important it is to create rituals, but how much I loooove doing them!

Rituals enable us to embody the transformation we wish to become.

My mermaid-priestess-retreat partner-pal Demi created an altar where she communed with Venus every day for 5 minutes.

She lit incense, a candle and saw herself immersed in the passionate, sexy energy of Venus. Her business dreams started coming true and she didn’t have to struggle so hard.

She was putting pleasure first in her spiritual life and it all began to get grounded.

I love doing group rituals and find that even when I don’t plan it, I always have the most potent women and men with me, and the magic number of people (9 or 13!). These are so powerful because each ritual participant is amplifying the group juju. It’s the easiest way that I see huge, dreamy manifestations happen.

My retreat in Glastonbury? Yep, it was seeded in at least two group rituals over the past two years.

And then my friend V. and I got together in 2016 and were talking about how we would go to Glastonbury together in 2017 …. she not only came to the retreat in September, but met the love of her life through eHarmony, who happens to live in the UK. He came to meet her in Avalon and let’s just say MAGIC happened.

In my program Sexy Siren Mystery School, I channel and create bespoke rituals for my clients that help them bring more pleasure and abundance into their lives and biz.

Your ritual might be getting out of bed 15 minutes earlier to meditate. Or to journal about how you see yourself manifesting the life you are wishing for. The time you spend in your pleasure ritual can be as little 5 minutes per day.

What makes the magic happen is the consistent focus on the pleasure you feel when you imagine that big dream of yours as if it is happening in real time.

Rituals help you shape the universe into the most pleasurable place! Enjoy and manifest.

Deeply passionately + pleasurably yours,





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About Kris Seraphine-Oster, Ph.D

Kris is a brand strategist and marketing copywriter that coaches creative and spiritually-minded entrepreneurs who are determined to find more meaning, magic AND profit in their businesses.

She was a once a corporate marketing director and lead website developer for some pretty big names, including Citrix Online, E! Entertainment Television, Disney, ABC, Paramount Pictures. She even made her employer $1 million with a single e-newsletter once.

But, like you, she heard the siren’s call and decided to pursue a life of pleasure, doing what she loves.

She has helped hundreds of entrepreneurs create a business and livelihood that feels otherworldly … seductive … enthralling … and totally pleasure-soaked.

When Kris isn’t working, you can find her priestessing rituals, writing mermaid erotica, dancing Indian classical and fusion styles, playing her congas, or frolicking in the surf with her 10-year old girl.


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